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从判断角度探索潜在客户类型：在光谱的另一端寻找平衡 

我是一个自信的 倡导者( INFJ-A )。如果您研究过性格理论，您可能会相当准确地理解这意味着什么，即您合理地期望我具有的性格特征。但如果您对我有更深的了解，您很快就会意识到我有一个特别强的判断特质。

当您参加我们的免费性格测试时，您的结果将以每种特征的百分比给出。这是因为“聊斋志异”测量的是决定您性格类型的特征。例如，一些测试结果为 51%外向的人有时可能会觉得他们需要暂时离开社交圈。也就是说，他们具有一些 内向的特质。其他人的测试结果可能为 65% 自信，这意味着他们可能有时会表现出一些动荡的倾向。对于我们测量的五个特征中的每一个，情况都是如此。 

就我而言，我的判断特质占比为97% 。这意味着我的性格与探索性特质相差无几。 

在很多方面，我的判断特质都让我受益匪浅。我对生活的方方面面都有计划（和备用计划）。我非常果断，而且目标导向性很强。 

但我的判断特质也曾导致过严重的挫折。不确定性会让我崩溃。好吧，不是字面意义上的崩溃，但它确实让我焦虑不已。我经常很难放弃一个行不通的项目，除非我有意计划休息时间，否则我真的很难放松。 

我对某些朋友和家人也非常失望，他们总是拖延或不像我一样做计划，这导致我与最亲密的关系紧张和冲突。我羞于承认这一点，但我偶尔不得不提醒自己，所有性格类型都值得尊重和理解，即使我很难理解他们的行事方式。 

如果我不注意的话，我的判断特质的强大性很容易让我失去平衡，并陷入判断和沮丧的漩涡。 

幸运的是，我了解到研究与我相反的性格特征不仅可以帮助我平衡性格中的极端，还可以培养对那些我难以理解的性格特征的理解、同理心和真正的欣赏。 

这就是为什么我决定（当然，也有一些提示）深入挖掘“展望型”人格特质的原因。我对这个范围的另一端了解得越多，我就越想分享我的见解——既是为了帮助其他像我一样的判断型人格，也是为了鼓舞那些可能因为自己与世界互动的特殊方式而感到被评判或误解的“展望型”人格。 

我最欣赏潜在客户个性的地方 

1. 他们有能力 

在我们的“无聊”调查中，近 80% 的“探索型”特质受访者表示，他们经常或非常经常感到无聊，而“判断型”特质的受访者只有 60% 多一点。有趣的是，超过一半的“判断型”特质受访者承认，即使有很多事情要做，他们也会感到无聊。 

过去，我曾谴责这种无聊是荒谬或懒惰的——但事实证明，放慢脚步并感到无聊是非常有价值的。至少有一项研究表明，无聊可以提高创造力。其他人则认为，无聊可以打开与情感联系的大门，本质上有助于补充能量以应对一天的挑战。无聊——以及允许自己什么都不做的能力——实际上对心理健康有益，并且可以在很多方面提高生产力。 

不幸的是，在我们这个竞争激烈、注重效率的社会中，像我这样的人很难让自己（或我周围的人）感到无聊或什么都不做。我觉得我必须“赢得”休息的权利，然后把它安排在我的工作周里。您知道吗？这太荒谬了！ 

The ability to just be, even with a million things on your to-do list, is worth emulating for the sake of mental well-being. 

2. Their Flexible Approach to Planning 

Nearly 90% of Judging personality types report that they do their best to anticipate and plan for potential changes in the future. Less than 60% of Prospecting types, however, are likely to answer the same. This statistic points to a certain amount of flexibility and a “take it as it comes” approach to life that seems common to Prospecting personalities. 

I, for one, tend to get really stressed out about changes to my plans – and the more last minute those changes happen, the worse it is. As ridiculous as it might sound to Prospecting types, “last minute” to someone with a strong Judging trait like me can easily refer to three months away. Okay, I’ll admit that I’m exaggerating (but not by much). 

Prospecting types, while not immune to this kind of “planning” stress, are dramatically less likely to fall victim to it. These personalities are also less likely to keep a constant countdown, checklist, or progress report in their head leading up to events or anticipated milestones.

I really admire how this trait lends itself to a person’s ability to laugh in the face of the unexpected. And if they get knocked off course in pursuing their plans, they don’t exactly bend over backward to get back on track – they just find a different route to get where they’re going and keep on keeping on. When I’m in a fit because something hasn’t gone the way that I expected it to, it helps to channel that Prospecting power of flexibility.

3. The Way They Seize the Day

I am fully aware that I struggle to enjoy my life as much as I should while it’s happening. I get so caught up in maintaining my routine and thinking about how to make my dreams for the future (thanks, Intuitive trait!) become a reality that I genuinely struggle to embrace the present moment. Invitations for spontaneous adventures usually cause some kind of internal conflict. I have to make an effort to enjoy any pleasant but unexpected change in my schedule. Even then, part of my mind is stuck thinking about how to get done whatever got put off in the name of “living in the present tense.”

Prospecting personality types, however, are so good at seizing the day. They are unlikely to hold themselves to their planned routine, opting to do what strikes their fancy instead. They are much more likely than Judging types to enjoy a spontaneous trip and probably consider a date “ideal” if it starts with someone asking, “So, do you want to go out tonight?”

And here I am getting stressed out by unexpected visitors!

With a background in early childhood development, I know that spontaneous play is essential for developing youngsters’ confidence, patience, creativity, and even independence. It’s the foundation of all learning! So what changes when we become adults? It’s not like spontaneity suddenly stops being good for us, and the research is there to prove it. When we lack spontaneity in our lives, anxiety, depression, and other mental health symptoms are likely to increase. Knowing this helps me go with the flow, but it takes real effort. For Prospecting types, it’s just how they are.

Balance Is Key

Yes, my Judging trait tested at 97%, but that doesn’t mean that it has to be unbalanced, causing me unnecessary complications. It does mean, however, that I have to make a very conscious effort to keep myself in check and look beyond my natural tendencies to develop the awareness that I need to find balance.

I deeply appreciate how my Judging nature has pushed me through life. I’ve accomplished many of my goals and feel like I am on track to achieve many more. I’m proud of the way that I get things done. But the study of personality theory has been undeniably helpful in allowing me to understand perspectives and ways of doing things that are different from my own. With these insights, I can continue to grow and be a better partner, parent, friend, and coworker to those Prospecting personality types – or even other Judging types who are less ridiculously Judging than I – in my circle of friends and loved ones.

The three points discussed above are just a starting place for me. I’ll continue exploring the Prospecting trait as part of my process of personal growth.

And I invite you to do the same. Maybe you don’t need to delve into this particular trait, but it might be helpful to ask yourself which aspect of your personality might benefit from exploring the other end of the spectrum for the sake of intentional rebalancing. Which particular personality trait do you find yourself struggling with? Let us know in the comments.

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